Who Is Responsible for Your Riding Success?
Behind every successful rider is a vast network of experiences and people who make it all possible. Strengthening every link in this chain is a surefire way to reach your goals! At the end of the day, though, who is calling the shots? Which link is the most important?
It’s not your trainer. Your trainer is an expert in their field, and an open line of communication with them is absolutely critical in order for you to be on the same page about what you are working towards and how you are accomplishing small, everyday goals. Finding the right trainer is a matter of coordinating your learning style with their teaching style, maintaining a healthy and positive environment, and both of you fitting into each other’s programs. The way you utilize that trainer’s expertise is up to you. If you are not following your trainer’s instructions or do not respect their advice, you can not hold your trainer accountable for your success or failure.
It’s not your loved ones. When someone you love is determined to reach a goal, it’s normal to want to help them to the best of your ability. It can be difficult to take a step back and recognize that you cannot control someone else’s fate. In fact, you may be standing in their way by trying to do so!
It’s not your horse. Remember, horses are not machines. They are living, breathing beings with minds of their own and are experiencing their own challenges and emotions. For the most part, those of us who are amateurs can bet that most riding problems stem from some level of miscommunication between horse and rider. Reminding yourself that your issues are not your horse’s fault will allow you to move forward and correct the problem, rather than laying unfounded blame.
So, who is responsible?
YOU ARE! At the end of the day, whether or not you reach your riding goals is up to you. The way you interact with all of the above parties will determine the quality of feedback you receive from each one. Taking ownership of your riding while respecting the experts you’ve chosen to support you will not only improve your skills, but also your enjoyment of the sport!